Three Steps To Help You Start Reading

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“I want to read, but it just never happens.”

I hear this from women in The Connected Reader community all the time. And I’ve been there. 

And here’s the thing, sometimes it’s just not going to happen. It’s not the season in your life where reading is going to fit in; it’s not how you are caring for yourself at the moment. 

This isn’t a failure. This is powerful self-awareness. Let it go and come back to it when the time is right. 

But if it really is something you want in your life –  not just something you feel like you should do, but something you feel like is missing and you want to make it happen –  I recommend three things that can help you start reading.

  • Decide how you will read – There is no right way to read, but the vehicle for your reading matters when you are trying to build a habit. Which way of reading will lead you to pick up that book in your down time? Is it looking forward to cozy reading with a hardcopy before you fall asleep at night? Is it listening on your daily commute? Or is it pulling out your e-reader while sitting in the kid-activity waiting area? If you aren’t sure, pick one and try it out. 
  • Pick three and have them ready –  Now here’s the critical part. You need to have three books ready to go – stacked on your nightstand, cued up in your e-reader or audiobook cues – so that no matter what mood you are in, there is something that grabs your attention. Where can you find these books? Treat yourself to 30 minutes and browse in-person at your library or local bookstore, or scroll through your e-reader and audiobook platforms and pick whatever speaks to you. If you want something a little more curated, you can check out The Connected Reader blog, for monthly reading recaps and other book list recommendations, or take a look at my favorites in my shop
  • Find a reading buddy – You don’t have to be in a book club to read with a buddy. Do you have a friend who reads or wants to read? Let them know what you are reading and ask them to read along. No pressure to meet and discuss, but I guarantee as you read, you’ll have feelings and you will want to share those feelings, even via text, with that friend. Even this type of baseline connection will fuel those endorphins to make it more likely you will keep reading. Around mid-month each month, I share what I’m planning to read the next month over on The Connected Reader Instagram account, and I would love if you DM-ed me when you want to read along. For real, DM me!

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Geneva · March 27, 2023 at 3:35 pm

I love these strategies! Adding an audio platform (on top of reading paper books) and having a lineup of audiobooks ready has helped me jump-start my reading this spring.

Kaitlyn · April 4, 2023 at 1:03 am

Thank you for sharing these ideas. I love the idea of planning what is coming next. I’m great at doing this with my audiobooks, but not as good at this with my print books. 🙂

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